A Case for BIG Acts of Self-Care for Reconnection and Self-Reclamation

I've always emphasized the beauty and sustainability of small daily habits for self-improvement. But occasionally, our self-care journey demands a more significant leap to reboot our personal development. On this episode I shared how my recent solo trip to London was a radical act of self-care for me. It's essential to recognize that personal growth and development sometimes require us to stretch beyond our comfort zones, reminding ourselves of our own self-worth and the importance of self-care.

These experiences, whether starting daily habits or planning an adventure abroad, define how to stop being a perfectionist and enrich our journeys toward how to feel happy. So, my call to you is straightforward: consider your own big step in self-care—it's time to reclaim, reconnect, and embrace your true self.

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Monica Packer: Just like a heart in trauma. Sometimes our self care needs a jumpstart to learn how to tick again.

Hi, this is Monica Packer and you're listening to about progress where we are about progress made practical. I have long taught about the deep and practical importance of leaning into the process when it comes to all things growth. The process is small wins, build over time. A lot of you came to my work on this podcast and have stuck around with it for years because of the gentle approach I take to what I teach about personal development and more specifically, the great importance of small steps and how taking small steps makes your progress both more doable and more sustainable over time.

My little saying that I do as a send off at the end of each episode [00:01:00] came from listeners who told me that listening into the podcast felt like a hug. But if you have listened to even a few episodes, then you know that that sendoff says, I hope this episode gave you the hug and kick in the pants you need to grow.

And if you hear that, then you may also know that I try to aim for things to be both gentle and firm while I always want you to feel better than when you came to this podcast, some episodes are more about a kick in the pants and today will be that kind of episode.

In it, I am going to make a case for the occasional necessity and importance of big steps, especially when it comes to self care. Self care that requires time.

Time for what we need and for what we want. This push came for me, thanks to my own big step of taking a solo trip, a trip that forced me into the [00:02:00] position of becoming an accidental case study For this idea that I wanna talk about, that we as women occasionally need to go big when it comes to taking care of ourselves and how doing so acts as a form of radical reconnection and self.

Reclamation, I am already fired up and I'm gonna make the case and share about the case study as well after a quick break for our sponsors.

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First a foundation for the case. I'm about to make what I'm going to teach here may feel a tad oppositional to a lot of what you hear me teach most often, and for me that's not because these ideas are conflicting. [00:04:00] I find them to be complimentary.

The personal development field loves to preach certainty. It's a big pet peeve of mine. They preach certainty, mostly because it's attractive and it sells, but also because it's easier , to teach in the black and white we as humans love black and white, we love certainty. A lot of what I do online combats the prescription bound certainties that are taught and again, sold in the personal development space, especially when those prescriptions are so very unrealistic to women leading real lives.

I want women to know that dramatic change start small and builds slowly and messily, so I want them to know. That flexibility is the very path to consistency and that they themselves are the expert that they have been looking for. They can make their own prescriptions. With that all being said, I [00:05:00] also want women to know there is an and there that the pursuit of progress will look like seasons of gentleness and seasons of persistence.

That there will be a variety , while most of what we do will be small, there's also a great need for occasional bursts of big, maybe even hard. Stretching work. This is true for all of the ways we want to grow. If you go back to school, it's time for some big steps.

If you have a child in crisis, then that's the time to step up to the plate and swing, swing, swing. If you have pressing needs from relationships to careers, then of course there are times where you've gotta go big. While, all of that should still be buoyed up by this belief in and practice of the process of still seeking for sustainable, small, messy ways to support yourself and to change for the long game.

We can't negate. The big that is needed as [00:06:00] well. So with all of that as well, the hope that you are with me, I wanna make a case for going big on one important category, self-care. Self-care isn't just pampering like girls' nights out and bubble baths and pedicures, although it can be those things, true self-care is bigger and deeper.

It's more about being in tune with yourself. It's about both noticing and validating your wants and needs and then following through with meeting them as best you can. Self-care can look like going to therapy. It can look like picking up a new hobby. It can look like taking a nap

and it can look like taking a bubble bath regardless of what you do. Self-care is about caring for yourself. And do you know what is the biggest make it or break it when it comes to self care that I have found to be [00:07:00] true? It's time. From small steps to big, none of those things are possible if we don't prioritize plan and even press for that time.

If you're in a season we're listening to and caring for yourself has fallen to the wayside, where taking time to care for yourself. Only comes if you put in way more work to make that happen. Then the simple advice of take care of yourself. Is going to fall flat.

You may be out of practice, your family may be out of practice too. You may be burnt out, exhausted, or still running on fumes with urgent cares all around you. And even with all of that, I want to make the case that this is the very time where you need to take care of yourself and sometimes in a big way because this is the very time it's most needed and because there will never be a good time [00:08:00] to illustrate that.

I wanna tell you that I have coached women in their sixties and seventies, women who are raising their hands to work on reacquainting themselves with who they are. Women who need help in reprioritizing themselves from habits to hobbies. Women's whose lives have not actually slowed down all that much because there are still urgent needs wherever they look.

I have to tell you, I'm always so proud of these women. I'm proud of them because they know it is never too late and they are ready and willing to put in the work and they do so. And the great thing is we always get them to a far better place than when they started. But each time I work with a woman in her later years, I feel a tug of sadness.

I feel sad for the years lost, where she could have felt better, been more herself, and lived a real, wild, messy, beautiful life where she was [00:09:00] prioritized, where she was on her own list. So with these women in mind, I wanna say something pretty bold to you. It is never too late, but do not wait.

Just like a heart in trauma. Sometimes our self care needs a jumpstart to learn how to tick again. I wanna tell you some good news about what is even big, because it's subjective. You get to decide what is big for you. My first big act of self-care after years of being off my list altogether was my do something list.

You should be well familiar with this list. At the time, it was a list of 30 things I wanted to try before I turned 30, and doing those small things messily and with great mediocrity. That felt huge to me from reading books [00:10:00] again, to trying new recipes, to writing publicly on a little blog that nobody read my small acts for my do something list felt big and radical to me.

Another form of big self-care when I was at my most lost and burnt out, looked like saying goodbye to one therapist that wasn't quite the right fit, and hello to a new one. One that wasn't covered by my insurance either. At the time, that felt very risky, especially because I felt pretty defeated by things not working with the last therapist, and I thought maybe it was me and that I was to blame, but saying I was worth trying again on and trying someone new and something new was a big thing for me.

Another big thing I did early on in this period was my first me day. I've done an episode on this and I'll link to it. This is where I [00:11:00] just take a day to myself. Sometimes it's an hour, sometimes it's a full day. The first one we did was a full day

from 6:00 AM to 6:00 PM we were just under 10 years married at the time. We had three kids who were then seven years old and under my oldest was about to turn eight, and I had never once in all my years of motherhood, taken even an afternoon for myself, nonetheless, a whole day. It was a huge thing for me to ask Brad to watch the kids for a full Saturday so I could gallivant around San Francisco where I visited my first museum.

In eight years and I window shopped before reading on my public transit home. I have a picture from that museum trip of me awkwardly standing in front of a piece of bright modern art, something that was out of the norm for me to do because I do not enjoy being in front of the camera. And I also had to ask a stranger to take the picture for me.

But this is a picture that I can bring to mind in an instant, not because I looked [00:12:00] cute, because I didn't. I had a pretty prominent zit on my face. That's all I can see when I see the actual picture. But I can bring up this picture in my mind because of what that moment meant to me, to my very soul.

It wasn't about the art. It was about reconnecting with the long lost part of me that loved art and loved museums. So much so that I interned at the Smithsonian before getting married and seriously considered going into museum studies before I instead became a teacher. It also wasn't about the time away from the kids, although it was that

it was about the time I then had to think. To breathe to be myself that day. Barely involved any money, just the train ride to and from the city. But it was a huge investment in myself, especially because it came at the cost of requesting that someone else, my husband, Brad, step up and make it possible for me to do so.

[00:13:00] Those big acts of self-care are ones I feel incredibly grateful now to pass Monica, while there wasn't a single one of them that dramatically changed my life in an instant, they each reminded me not just how to take the time, but of the necessity of doing so. That gratitude for past Monica really came to head for me quite recently while I was on my trip abroad to London.

One that I'll tell you more about in a bit. While I was on the trip, I recorded a travel log of what I was experiencing for a special episode that I released on more personal and I was as shocked as anyone else when on my final day there I was extremely emotional. As you may know, I am not much of a crier.

I don't feel things very deeply. I'm more of a doer, but that whole day, which I spent walking 12 miles all over London, also looked like me weeping [00:14:00] behind my sunglasses. One of those first moments came after I ate chocolate covered strawberries at the borough market, which is a popular food market near the globe.

And it was at the globe where I was walking. And I recorded this little segment I wanna share with you. I just had a moment, you know, a life one, um, and like over

a large cup of chocolate covered strawberries. Um, I just left the borough market and I'm walking towards the globe, so Cool. Oh, but a little backstory. Um, I think I've mentioned it maybe a hundred times, but I want my study brought here 20 years ago, almost 19 years ago, a little over, and, um, it was. Uh, and arguably the most life altering experience [00:15:00] of my life up to that point, and still is one of them, which is why I probably talk about it all the time.

Um, and you know, that's because I got exposed to so much. I got to see so much. I was the first one in my family to leave outside of the states. Um. Aside from, you know, serving a mission, uh, to just be able to see things and do things. So to, to do that was one, you know, but, and also to see them was another, and to experience them was another.

Um, so yeah, every part of that was so incredibly life changing. But the other part of that trip was that I realized I had a major problem. It was on that trip that, you know, years and years of disordered eating fully turned into a full blown eating disorder. [00:16:00] Yes. And you know, probably, let's say the majority of my trip was consumed by that.

Um, so when I went to Borough Market, I think I went twice while I was there. I have so many pictures of like every stall and so many pictures of food. And I didn't let myself eat any of it.

You know, I just saw and I wanted it, and, but I, you know, was being good and gonna be careful. And I remember buying like a small bag of chocolate covered nuts and I, and Apricot. Dried apricots. So I guess I did eat those things, but I bought them and I didn't eat them there, and I saved them. And I was like allowed to eat one apricot [00:17:00] and like one nut a day.

Like I'm not even exaggerating.

And in many ways, while that experience was so, um, life altering. It could have been so much more, but my, my eating disorder really than it only was, um, rocked me of my presence. And it robbed me of moments and thrills and joys and,

and I would say even pleasures, you know, it robbed me. So now going back, I, I realized this other day I was on my, my walk there like, oh my goodness. I am fully present to each part of this experience. I am fully here. I'm not thinking [00:18:00] about my body. I'm not obsessing over what my lunch is going to be today and how I can eat just part of it.

I'm not worried over what they're gonna feed us next. I'm not thinking about the calories. I'm not thinking about any of that. I am here. I'm taking in every sensory experience. I am truly making memories. I am with people as I talk to them, not just. Pretending. Um, and that came to a head the other day because of all the nature walks, you know, and being on top of a giant hill where Kiera Knightly had her moment, like on that kind of rock face.

Um, the, the few moments of like mental respite, like from the turmoil of my eating disorder on the trip were those kind of moments when I was on the top of a big hill. [00:19:00] And I can't remember what they are now. One was in Edinburgh, I think it's like Adams handle or something like that, or another one was on top of another English cleanser site.

I don't remember. The Lake district was so healing, but to just know I didn't like those moments were the, that powerful for me here, but they weren't my only respite. So now it brings us to Borough Market, and I'm sorry this is a long way of telling, telling you about this, but. At the borough market, you know, one of the things they're known for are these giant cups of chocolate covered strawberries, and they are swimming in chocolate.

And I got one. Of course, there are still some lingering voices, you know, like, well, that's a lot. That's a lot. And it is. And, but like the lingering judgments of it, like, you're not gonna eat that all yourself, right? Like I didn't have to, and honestly, I could have been, could have kindly been done [00:20:00] and not out of like restriction or fear anything.

But I took that opportunity to eat the whole giant cup of strawberries and all like the, the pool of chocolate left behind. And I literally, I just told my tour group yesterday that I'm a robot who never cries. I only cry on the inside. But this time I was like visibly tearing up, which for me is full on weeping.

And I am right now, like essentially full on weeping. But for me, tearing up, tearing up and choking up. 'cause I had that full circle moment of being like, oh my goodness. I'm here, I'm having this experience again, and I'm having it in a new way, and I had such gratitude, like gratitude that I get to be here for Brad for, you know, pushing me to invest in myself, [00:21:00] letting me fly.

But also gratitude for how much I have changed. And as part of that, like some pride, like I am so proud of myself,

I could have had that same experience today, the same opportunity really, and had the old experience again, had I not. Persisted and, and this thing I teach you about all the time, dang it, the small winds build over time. That things take time, that it's messy and hard to change. And now like to be in a place where

19 years later

to be in the same opportunity and to have a different experience. To me, it's just [00:22:00] like a living emblem of, of these, of these principles, and so I'm proud of myself today. I'm proud of Monica 19 years ago who came home from that study abroad and who went to the counsel. Office at her college and started to get help and I'm proud of Monica, who a year later kept trying when things didn't seem to be getting any better.

And then the Monica, four years later who was a little bit better, but still not. And thinking that it would never change. Maybe that maybe I would just always really struggle with it. And now fast forward to 19 years, you know, being like, I don't, there are some lingering things, of course there always will be.

'cause I'm a woman who lives now. [00:23:00] We can't fully escape it, but I am so proud of myself and grateful. That I kept trying, so congratulations. I had one tear come out, maybe two. So I guess that's my yearly or maybe decade cry, but wow, what a good one to have. Oh, so now I'm literally standing, like walking back and forth in this little lane in next to the globe.

So I'm gonna go look at that for a moment. And then continue my walk and just take it all in. I'm so grateful for this last day. I'm grateful that I get to do it by myself. I just, I need that time. But, um, it's just this whole thing has felt like one of the coolest and most special things I've ever done for myself and that Brad has done for [00:24:00] me too.

'cause I couldn't have done it without his urging and support and good attitude. So, I guess that's another way to say it. I'm also excited to see my family. Alright, that's it for that very long kind of capstone to the trip, but I'm, I'm sure I'll come back to share a little bit more tonight and try to get this together for you.

But thanks for listening.

In revisiting that moment. I want to urge you with all I have to do the thing now, the big thing that you've been thinking about, the big thing that you've been too scared to think about. Do not wait. Take the small and gentle messy steps and believe in the process of change AND consider how it may be time to do that in a big way, even a way that just feels big to you, A way that acts as an ultimate form [00:25:00] of both reconnection and a reclamation for yourself.

Reclamation meaning a reclaiming a reclaiming of you. That big thing doesn't have to be a trip abroad like it was for me, although it could, it could look like starting therapy, hosting a new book club for your neighborhood, making your first do something list. Taking a me day or even something as seemingly simple as getting a pedicure or a girl's night out.

For me as a non-social butterfly, both of those things would feel big to me. What is big for you doesn't have to look grandiose to anyone else. It's more about stretching yourself outside of your comfort zone of even your family's comfort zone too, to reconnect with and to reclaim yourself.

So. I think I've made the case to occasionally going big with forms of self-care that require time.

After the break, [00:26:00] I wanna talk about my own case study of doing so and the lessons I learned on my recent trip abroad, ones that can apply to you and whatever big step you are going to take.

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I wanna set this up by telling you just a little bit about the trip because it really leads to the lessons that I learned while I was there. The trip I took was to London, like I said, but I originally signed up for a Pride and Prejudice pilgrimage tour in the British countryside in [00:29:00] Derbeyshire, which I always feel like I'm saying wrong, but I think I said it right this time.

This tour was hosted by a podcast host of a podcast I love. One of the few I actually listen to. I more listen to audio books. I know the irony is pretty strong. The podcast is Pantsuit Politics, and the tour host was sarah Stewart Holland. When she shared this trip on her podcast.

I immediately looked it up and I mean immediately I was getting ready to work out. I usually listened to something as I do so, and I stopped what I was doing, and looked at the tour right then and there.

And I booked it. A day or two later. The reason this called to me is because it feels nerdy. I was an English major and English teacher. I now love to read again. Pride and Prejudice is a classic. I love anything. Jane Austen. I also love anything nature, walking, hiking, being outside, and anything.

English. Two, thanks to a study abroad that I did almost 20 years ago. , And in particular, I knew it had to fly in and out of London so I could revisit there [00:30:00] a place I hadn't been to in that same amount of time. So this tour had my name all over it.

When I asked Brad, Hey, can we make this possible? I told him how I wanted to pay for it too. He said yes, and I signed up and I immediately felt so excited. Those feelings changed, and that's partly what I'm gonna share about with this lesson. But that I did go on the trip. I went back and these are the lessons I wanna share that I learned from going big with my act of radical self-care or self-care where I reconnected with myself and reclaimed myself too.

The first lesson is it will not feel easy to do the big thing. I told you how excited I was initially. That excitement faded over the six months between signing up and going over those days, all I could think about was the great time and money and sacrifice that was going to go into me going on this trip.

Not just for myself, but for [00:31:00] my whole family. I recently looked at the history of my heart rate, long story why. But I was looking at the history of it, and I laughed out loud when I saw that. The days leading up to my trip, my resting heart rate was extremely high. I can tell you that was true, but my anxiety was even higher.

I felt terrified to go. I was scared of being by myself until I joined the tour group of being alone on an airplane ride of not knowing my roommate of the public transit of how to get from one place to another. The list was endless. I was outta my comfort zone. You will too. It will not feel easy to do the big thing.

Do it anyway. And if that involves going somewhere, go. Anyway. The second lesson is it takes a village. Thanks to the responsibilities that I bear and that I know you as women bear too. A word we could replace with responsibilities is relationships. I knew that I could not go on this [00:32:00] trip without help.

And that meant I had to ask for it. I had to ask Brad for help. I had to ask my mom for help with our toddler so that Brad could work as well. I had to ask my kids to step up to the plate and to do more, and doing this big thing wasn't possible totally on my own. You must ask for help and you may even have to require it.

Sometimes that boldness is necessary where you say, I am doing this thing and I require your support. It will take a village, and it's okay to ask for that village. The third lesson is that you will be surprised by both the joy and the grief that comes with reconnecting. I'm getting emotional about this with forgotten parts of yourself.

That is why I wept that entire last day because I felt both. I felt the joy of being like, wow, I'm me. I myself, again, I thought I was being me, but [00:33:00] reconnecting in such a deep way think at the time that I had to do so, felt equal parts joyful and something to grieve because I could see the small parts that I still have lost To life, not that it was anybody's fault or taken from me, but just lost to life. And I felt so happy to be reconnected to that and to reclaim it, but also the sadness of noticing that it was gone and that was something to grieve. I. The fourth lesson is to use this opportunity, this moment of where you take some big of time for yourself.

Use that opportunity to spur a reclamation of yourself. To me, this looks like reclaiming that this is your life to insist that you. Alive, that this is your life too. That as much as you love and value and prioritize the responsibilities in your life, [00:34:00] again, the relationships in your life, your life is for you too.

So you must live it, and that means you can reclaim the interest you have, the wants, desires, the needs that you have, reclaim those things. The fifth lesson is to consider how this experience can spur the how in real time outside of the experience. You listen to me do this in real time. A couple weeks back when I shared about how, ooh, I'm in a funk.

More on that in a moment and, and how I was able to say like, well, I can't live in England. So what, from that experience. Is something I can extract and replicate in my day-to-day life, in my normal life. So for me it was rest and hobbies and adventure. So. From your experience, come up with some themes that can match your normal life and what needs to maybe change in your household and your relationships so that you can prioritize hobby wise and habit wise, [00:35:00] these threads in your day-to-day life.

Number six, the sixth lesson is that. Normal life will feel hard for a while, and that's honestly part of the point. That's what you've heard me do in real time. I'm still in the messy middle of this. But I've told myself, and it's made me lean in in ways that are actually productive. I've told myself this is normal, and it's actually the point when you have that time, even if it's just like an hour, like the therapy session, or going to museum or whatever it may be for yourself when you return to normal life, it's gonna feel a little bit like hitting a wall in some ways.

That pause is going to give you an opportunity to ask hard questions, to even have hard conversations. I want to encourage you to lean into that discomfort a bit and let that disruption change things about your day-to-day life so that life is actually better yours. From here on, like we [00:36:00] talked about reclaiming so.

That's a hard lesson that returning to normal life may feel a little hard, but that's okay. And the seventh and final lesson is the purpose is you. You are going to feel selfish. For taking this time. Again, it all comes back to time. Sometimes money too, sometimes sacrifice from other people as well.

You're gonna feel selfish. I did. I felt selfish. That was part of my anxiety leading up to the trip, is I had to buy plane tickets still, even after buying the tour, I had to buy some clothing items for all the hiking that we were doing. It was a lot of money. And a lot of time I left my family to do so, and I can tell you that I came back truly washed head to toe inside out with fulfillment, with gratitude, and even the sacredness of that experience of being able to have that time to and for myself.

I had to own that it wasn't that I was being selfish, it was [00:37:00] about reclaiming myself, and that meant if this is what helps you do so, that I have more to give from now. As hard as it's been to come back, I have been more myself and I have more to give from now too. I am gonna repeat those seven lessons in a bit, but I want you to think of how you can apply them to yourself and the big way you want to take care of yourself, which will likely entail taking some time.

What will that look like? And I'd honestly love to hear about it. You're, do something challenged this week is to do that, to think of something a big way that you want to take care of yourself and to tell me about it. . I'd love to hear about it via email.

You can email me at [email protected].

In ending, I want to revisit one of my fiery statements. I said near the beginning, and it's one I really want you to remember. It is never too late, but do not wait.

I hope this episode gave you a hug and kick [00:38:00] in the pants you need to grow. I'll now share the progress pointers. These are the notes I take so you don't have to, and those on my newsletter, get them in a graphic form each week. You can sign up at about progress.com/newsletter, and today the progress pointers are those seven lessons and this is just a shortened version of the lessons. The longer form will be on the graphic when you do something big to prioritize caring for yourself. know, number one, it won't feel easy or convenient. Do it anyway. Go anyway. Number two, it takes a village.

You must ask for help and may even have to require it. Number three, you will be surprised by both the joy and the grief that come with reconnecting with forgotten parts of yourself. Number four, use this opportunity to spur a reclamation of self. Number five, consider how this experience can spur the how in your day-to-day life.

Number six, normal life may feel hard for a while, but that's honestly part of the point. And number seven, the purpose is you. It's not about [00:39:00] being selfish, it's about reclaiming a self. Your do Something challenge again for this week is to choose one big way. You are going to prioritize yourself and bonus points if you email your idea to me at [email protected].

I also want to link in the show notes, the Do Something List free training. It's never too late in the year, so you can to about progress.com/dsl to get a training on how to make your own do so. Thing. List. And I'll also link to the Me Day episode that I recently aired on how to take a media. Before I go, I want to invite you to something extra big.

Consider making your radical form of self-care, a tour to Rome, Italy, with me. You may know this already, but I am hosting a female foodie tour exclusive to just our community, to Rome, Italy. It's a seven night tour. The theme of this trip is "rediscover me" throughout our time together.

We're gonna eat amazing food. We're going to see everything you could ever want to see. We're gonna stay in Rome. We're also gonna stay in a villa [00:40:00] outside of Rome. Everything will be beautiful, top-notch. Tasty. And along the way, I'm going to teach a workshop and host discussions on this theme of rediscovering yourself there's more in store, but the whole trip will be about you finding you again.

Most of the rooms on the tour are taken. There's just a few spots left. This is a companionship model trip, so you can either find a friend to come and sign up, or you can be a single rider just like you do at an amusement park. I have already paired four single riders, and there's one currently in the wings who really wants to come.

So if you're interested in being a single rider. And if you wanna get more information on the trip and also hear about the special incentives I'm providing to single riders specifically, you can email me at [email protected]. And you can also check out the tour [email protected] slash Italy.

I know this tour is a huge investment. It, and I have to tell you, I thought long and hard before agreeing to host it, especially in this [00:41:00] economy, but I can say with full confidence now more than ever, thanks to the tour that I went on, that as big of an ask as this is for yourself and likely for your family.

I know if you can make the investment, you will not regret it. And a quick note on the investment piece, other female foodie tours being released right now are selling at much higher rates. Our tour rates are secure, but I cannot promise this in the future, and I don't think I will likely host a tour in the future too.

So again, to learn more about the tour, go to about progress.com/italy to learn more about the single rider option and the incentives I'm providing to those riders. Email me at [email protected] and do so really quickly. With all of that being said, I again want to remind you it doesn't require a trip abroad, but I want you to think about a form of big self-care that you can take on right now.

This podcast is listener supported. You can support the show by signing up for the Supporters Club at about [00:42:00] progress.com/support, but you can always support the show for free. And the best way to do that right now is to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcast specifically, and doing so, you get automatically submitted to my favorite things giveaway that is.

About to start it's a rolling giveaway, so I pull from the reviews left in our current year and there are a few reviews left, so you are very likely to win if you submit something now. You can do that by going to Apple Podcasts online or on your phone and leaving a rating and review there.

Thank you so much for listening. Now go and do something with what you learned today.

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